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Thursday, August 31, 2006
  Lisa Update
Lisa return my E-mail. First, she said that she was questioning if she was a real alcoholic. Then, she said her reasons for wanting to drink were her son, the changing seasons and her new medication.

I told her that I had a solution for her dilemma if she was interested. She said she was, so I told her my or rather A.A.'s suggestions. I gave her my phone number again and offered to be of any help I could.

And that is that. I have a hard enough time working with people who desperately want to part company with alcohol. I don't need to be chasing down women who are not even sure if they have a problem.
  Lisa and the Hand of A.A.
You know my friend Lisa(not her real name)? She is the woman who thought I was avoiding her a few weeks ago. She is also the woman who was pummelling me with cutesy forwarded E-mails a while back.

Lisa told a group of us yesterday, that she has been struggling with a strong desire to drink. She said it all started after two year chip a few months back. I tried to talk to her after but, she left before I could say anything. I should have phoned her but, instead I sent her an E-mail and asked her what was going on. So far I have not heard back.

I believe her and I am glad that she told on herself. If she lets me talk to her my advice will be to go to 90 meeting in 90 days. Also, get a sponsor and work the steps with that sponsor.

I know my job is only to carry the message of Alcoholics Anonymous. But part of me does not want to carry the message unless I am sure it is going to be heard. Childish I know but, that is how I feel right now in the wee hours of the morning. My sponsor always tells me it is about my willingness and efforts not about the other alcholic's reaction.
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
  Alcoholics as Bankrupt Idealists

"...Most alcoholics are bankrupt idealist. Nearly everyone of us had wished to do great good, perform great deeds that embodied great ideals. We were perfectionists who, failing to attain perfection, had gone to the other extreme and settled for the bottle and the blackout."

Alcoholics Anonymous Comes of Age, page 108

Tuesday, August 29, 2006
  Success Stories of Recovering Alcoholics
Someone found me by entering, "success stories of recovering alcoholics." It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.
  School Starts Today
In a little less than two hours Sam will be on the school bus headed for second grade. A whole day to myself...what to do, what to do.
Monday, August 28, 2006
  Gratitude List
Friday, August 25, 2006
  Gratitude List

Thursday, August 24, 2006
  Dubuque, Iowa

I was born and lived the first 18 years of my life in Dubuque, Iowa. Dubuque is a little redneck town on the banks of the Mississippi. I ran across this postcard of Dubuque on the web and I thought I would share it with all of you. Or rather "yous guys." Damn I love being self-righteous.
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
  Back to School

Sam goes back to school next Tuesday. I cannot say that I am exactly choked-up about it. In fact this is what I call my happy dance.
Tuesday, August 22, 2006
  Windows Live Writer
Anyone else using Windows Live Writer? I have it downloaded but, I cannot say that I am really using it. I can say that I do enjoy the soothing colors that now highlight my forms.

And is anyone using the new Blogger Beta? Geez I wish I was 20 years younger so this stuff would be second nature to me.
Monday, August 21, 2006
  acceptance of addiction big book page 417
Narcissist that I am, I often check my site meter. Yesterday, someone found me by entering the search acceptance of addiction big book page 417. That is either a step up or a step down from finding me by entering the search "naaked men."
  Fear Strikes Out
It seems that everyone in blogland is talking about this NY Times article. Since it talks CT politics, I thought I would give it a plug. Click to read Five Years After 9/11, Fear Finally Strikes Out.
  Gratitude List
Sunday, August 20, 2006
  Gratitude List
Friday, August 18, 2006
  Thanks DAAve
Thank you DAAve for helping me clean up my side bar! If I left you out please let me know, it was not intentional.

And please read my post below and let me know what you think.

  Someone in the Program is Mad at Me
My A.A. friend Lisa sent me an E-mail asking me why I was avoiding her and how she had offended me. I was not aware that I was avoiding or offended.

Its not that I mean to avoid her but, we just do not have much in common and I find it difficult to communicate with her. Lisa is the same woman who was pummelling me what those cutesy forwarded E-mails a while back (click here). But when I would try to turn the E-mail into an actual conversation all I got back is more cutesy E-mail. She never seems to want to talk program.

I guess it comes down to this. Beyond exchanging social niceties I would rather spend my time talking with newcomers or people with whom I connect. If she needs my help I am there but, I am not obligated to be her buddy if we just don't connect.
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
  Burno Kirby Dies

From AP: "Bruno Kirby, the veteran character actor who co-starred in When Harry Met Sally and City Slickers has died at age 57 in Los Angeles from complications related to leukemia, according to a statement today from his wife, Lynn Sellers."

Do you ever notice how people are starting die closer and closer to your age? And "When Harry Met Sally" just came out last year right?
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
  Gratitude List

Monday, August 14, 2006
  Castro Changes Clothes

What do you know, Fidel Castro doesn't always wear fatigues after all. Click here to read more.
  Gratitude List
  O.K. Now I Am Being Judgmental
I need to go to some other meetings while this soap opera plays out between my friend, her newcomer girlfriend and the girlfriend's husband. Last night the two women and I were at the same meeting. They sat next to each other being very careful not to look like they were dating.

The meeting was on step ten. My friend talked for four or five minutes on the importance of step ten in her life. All the while she was talking, I am thinking, You Are So Full of Shit. I would call my sponsor and talk about it but, she is my sponsor.

Anyhow, the advice that you folks gave me was right. I have told her my feelings and concerns now, I need to hold her at arms length while waiting for the crash. Geez, I am grateful to be me today.
Friday, August 11, 2006
  More Sex and A.A.
I am worried about my friend. You know my sleeping with a married newcomer friend. She told me that this person (I am pretty sure it is a woman) has changed her life for the better. She says she is NOT gambling, or over spending or engaging in her sexual addiction since being in this relationship. Duh!

But, here is the real issue. How do I remain available for her but, keep the focus on my own recovery. I don’t mind waiting around for the car crash but, I am not going to stand in the middle of it.
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
  Connecticut's 15 Minutes of Fame
Since I live in Connecticut, I would be remiss not to mention Sen. Joe Lieberman stunning defeat in the Connecticut Senate Democratic Primary.

I do not generally get interested in politics until after Labor Day. In fact, I am not registered correctly so I did not even vote. But, I am told that yesterday you could not swing a dead cat here yesterday without hitting a member of the national media. Not much happens here in little old Connecticut so it is very exciting stuff.
  Sex and A.A.
Yesterday, a friend of mine in the program told me that she is in a new relationship. Great! Great except, the other person is new in the progam...And married...And the spouse is in the program.

Can you say, Crash! Can you say, Pain! Can you say, someone might end up Drinking over this. I love my friend but, she does the stupidest things sometimes.
Monday, August 07, 2006
  Happy Birthday Fidel

Fidel Castro turns 80 on August 13. Castro has always fascinated me. Aside from his politics, his longevity is amazing. He has outlasted nine US presidents, without changing his sense of fashion.
  Gratitude List
In an effort to get out of my "post vacation I should have never taken my mother in law funk," it has been suggested that I compose a gratitude list.

Sunday, August 06, 2006
  Talladega Nights
Chuck and I went to see Talladega Nights for our anniversary. Yes it is our anniversary, lucky number 13. As Coffee Bitch posts Talladega Nights is pretty funny. It is a little crude but, not too bad.

It was our compromise movie between Miami Vice and The Devil Wears Prada. Compromise is how we managed to stay married for the past 13 years.
Saturday, August 05, 2006
  Stop On By
Hey guys, I ran across this Blog while searching Technorati. She is not a fellow recovering alcoholic as far as I know but, I think she could use a visit. Click here.
Friday, August 04, 2006
  Mel Gibson's Butt and A.A.
So guys, dish. Has anyone seen Mel Gibson at A.A. lately. Oh wait a minute, it is Alcoholics Anonymous isn't it.

I had no idea that he was one of us. You have to admit that Mel Gibson has one of the best butts in all of human history. Maybe he could start Butts Anonymous and I could go.

Oh well, forgive me if my commentary is old I am just getting back to civilization.
  Mother In Law Vaction
Now why did I ever think it was a good idea to take my mother in law on vacation?
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