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Outright Mental Defective
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
  Cutesy Spam E-mails
I need some Alcoholics Anonymous etiquette advice.  You know sort of A.A. meets Emily Post.  

There is a woman in the program who has my E-mail.  She has my E-mail because she had asked me to sponsor her.  As far as sponsoring her goes, she never called me or took any of my suggestions.  She also wasn’t interested in working the steps or reading the Big Book again (she had read it once.)  So essentially I never sponsored her. She stopped going to meeting at all a few months ago after she got her one year coin.  

What she does do is send me cutesy spam E-mail.  You know the kind I mean, a picture of an adorable penguin tap dancing on a chubby polar bear. I really don’t like cutesy spam E-mails.  My mother-in-law sends E-mails like that I delete 90% of them sight unseen.  If my husband sends them I delete 99% without opening it.  I tolerated them from her because I thought that I was at least keeping the lines of communication open.  This is how our communication goes.

It wouldn’t be so bad if it was only a few E-mails a week but, she sends me four to six of these spam E-mails every other day.  What should I do?  
Monday, November 28, 2005
  Anonymous Alcoholic
Hey, Recovery Bloggers check out Anonymous Alcoholic.
  Lawyers, Guns and Money
In a Big Book meeting I attended last night, a woman shared that she keeps guns all over her house. She shared that although she has young children, she does not keep the guns locked up in case she needs to act quickly to protect her family. She also shared that her children’s social worker was at her house “pissing her off” but, the social worker did not know that she was within feet of a loaded gun. She laughed and I tried to figure out what guns had to do with what we had just read.

I have years in soberiety and I stilled don't know how to handle situations like this.
Thursday, November 24, 2005
  hAAlf nAAked thursdAAY
I am just showing off my tail feathers. (I spend way too much time on my hAAlf nAAked thursdAAy pictures.) Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Americans and best wishes to everyone eles.

FYI to all the other hAAlf nAAked thursdAAy folks, some one has stolen our idea. Did we copyright that? (-: Click here for details. Posted by Picasa
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
  More Gratitude
Sam has a new best buddy Alex. I was really glad to when Sam came home and told me about Alex. Sam is a kid who functions best with an official best friend. Sam hasn’t had an official best friend since Jacob in preschool nearly a year and a half ago.

Before I knew it Sam was scheduling a play date with this kid. Saturday came and we went over to drop Sam off at Alex's. We met Alex and his parents. They did not seem like they were gun toting, pedophile, country western fans. So we figured Sam was relatively safe there and Chuck and I took off for the grocery store.

In the middle of all this, I had been planning Sam's birthday party. I had been obsessing over the details and trying to micromanaged the whole thing. Not feeling a whole lot of gratitude. Then Chuck comes home after having retrieved Sam from Alex's house. "Do you know what Alex’s mother told me," he asked. "She told me that Alex has leukemia and he just finished treatment six months ago," he said.

O.K. so maybe the birthday party details are not all that important. And maybe I should pull my head out of …well you know.
  Gratitude List
Tuesday, November 22, 2005
  Potential Christmas Picture
What do you think? Posted by Picasa
  Thankful Blog.
In this season of gratitude take a look at Thankful Blog.
  Do You Need a Speaker Meeting
Do you need a speaker meeting? If you need a speaker meeting and cannot get to one XA-Speakers might fill the gap. Click here to learn more.
Monday, November 21, 2005
  Mental Illness Sucks
Do you remember my A.A. friend Joan (not her real name) who said she prayed for her son to die? I gave her a ride home on Friday. Suddenly in the middle of she started ranting and raving. The ranting was mostly about our mutual friend Ted and how he had the right idea by dieing. How she wished that she was "that smart." Now Ted if you remember drank himself to death. When I got home, I called my husband and a couple of my A.A. friends. I knew what they were going to tell me but I did not want to be alone with the whole thing. Mental illness sucks.
  Fall Leaves
This is Sam and our tenant's grandchildren playing in the leaves a week ago Saturday. Posted by Picasa
  Acceptance is the Answer
Read more about Dr. Paul the author of Acceptance is the Answer, page 417 Big Book.
Friday, November 18, 2005
  naaked man personal
Do you know that at least one person got to OMD today by typing in this goggle search, naaked+ man + personal. I am touched.

I really should type naked or naaked more often my hits should shoot right up there.
  Scott's A.A. Birthday
It is Scott's A.A. birthday today!
  Job Interviews
Just so you understand as background, what I do for a living is raise money for nonprofit groups though Planned Giving and Major Gifts work. When the planes hit the twin towers on September 11 they also hit my career. I had just changed careers a couple years before myopic as I am I was ill prepared.

Alright, so the interviews, thank you for asking. I had two, one was at 9:00 a.m. and one was at 11:00 a.m. They both went fine. A lot of red flags came up in the 11:00 one. One of the red flags was that they were not going to have the second round of interviews until January. Or as she put it, "January if we are lucky." They are a pretentious environmental group anyway and the position had lots of other red flags.

Today I have a phone interview with a consulting group. If I understood him correctly the position is consulting with nonprofit groups rather than working for one. This interests me but, overnight travel could be an issue.

Anyhow, God is in charge and more will be revealed.
Thursday, November 17, 2005
  Diamonds on the Soles of Her Feet
Yep, pumice, I need pumice. My soon to be seven year old took this picture. Not bad! Posted by Picasa
  Hold On, Wait
You will have to wait for hAAlf nAAked thursdAAy, I got two job interviews this morning. I am a little nervous but, basically O.K.
Tuesday, November 15, 2005
  Gratitude List

Monday, November 14, 2005
  My Monday
I did not get called to substitute teach this morning. Just as well, last week I pulled a couple of really easy assignments so, I am about due insane preachers' kids on crack. Law of averages you know.

Instead of substituting I went to the Monday Morning Big Book meeting. Talk about insane preachers' kids on crack. The chair had stomach flu so they asked me to chair. "When asked to serve, serve," the old timers always told me, so I chaired.

When I got home from the morning meeting there were two messages (Vonage Rocks) waiting for me. I naturally assumed they were bill collectors and I almost did not listen to them. "Life on life's terms," I heard the committee in my head say. So I listen to the messages. The messages were two H.R. people wanting to interview me for jobs. Two actual jobs that are in driving distance and in my field. I just don't get God.
  Katrina America's Diaspora
Katrina Survivors, where are they now? My thanks to Full Circle for linking to this page.
Sunday, November 13, 2005
  New Helicoptor
What do you think of the new helicopter. I hear that Dick Cheney had his eye on this one. Posted by Picasa
Saturday, November 12, 2005
  Can You Be Fired for Blogging?
Hey guys, I got a question for you. Can you be fired for blogging? The short answer is, in most cases yes absolutely you can be fired for blogging. Click here to learn how to protect yourself. Now I am not worried because I don't have a job.
Friday, November 11, 2005
  Power Outage
Sorry about missing hAAlf nAAked ThursdAAY, major power outage.
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
  Shame and Career
I am feeling a lot of shame and weariness over my job situation in the past few days. I pray and pray and pray and it just feels like God is not listening. I used to pray for a job, now I pray to be useful to God today.

All those years of education, all those years of jockeying myself into positon and nothing. The best job I have found in CT so far is substitute teaching. I am not a teacher. I was never trained as a teacher. I hate it. I hate larger groups of children. Sometimes I even hate myself.

A friend from The Program suggested that I try food service. Food service is what I did in college. Now I have a college degree and three years of graduate school and the best I can do is food service. Meanwhile, it seems like all these people around me are getting good jobs. What am I doing wrong?
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
  Treason's Greetings
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  Gratitude List

Monday, November 07, 2005
  Cub Scouting is Weird
Cub Scouting is weird. To me, the whole saluting, handshaking and motto saying thing is weird. Adults in Scout uniforms are weird. Flag ceremonies are weird. Merit badges are weird. Here is the catch; the weirder I think the whole thing is the more my son Sam seems to enjoy it. I just don't get it.
Friday, November 04, 2005

Higher Power sent me this picture to make me feel better. It worked.
Thursday, November 03, 2005
  Two words
Two words, stomach flu.
  hAAlf nAAked ThursdAAy
Alright, no cartoon characters this week. This is actually me. No, I did not have my 6 year old take this one for obvious reasons. Posted by Picasa
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
Have you ever been in a car accident?  You know how your whole body tenses up.  That is how I feel.  My shoulders feel like they are in a vise.  I think I have been this way since I heard about the death of my friend Ted.  

My German Lutheran upbringing tells me that I should not feel this way.  My upbringing tells me I should not grieve for Ted.  You only are supposed to grieve for relatives up to and sometimes including first cousins.  We were not related.  We were not even that close, in fact I do not think that I really knew him at all.  I feel sad anyway.  

Some of my grief is selfish.  Ted and I had a lot of similar interests.  He was a writer and we read each others stuff.  I wanted him to go on reading my stuff.  I wanted us to go on having conversations about writing, history and the absurdity of American culture.  I want to see him walk into the 10:00 meeting this morning. That all died when Ted died last weekend.      
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
  Gratitude List
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