Outright Mental Defective: Sponsee

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

Sponsee

Have you ever wanted to wring you sponsee's neck. I have one who is so busy "hiding" that fact that she is an alcoholic that she keeps drinking(and drinking and drinking).

Argggggggggghhhhhhh she is just like me and she drives me nuts.

¶ 9/19/2006 02:37:00 PM

Comments:

Then cut her loose until she is ready to get honest and get sober. Stop wasting your time with drama queens and maintain your serenity.

If they dont want to get sober you can't make them. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink...

I don't waste my time with people in denial. Time is precious and wasted time is wasted time.

There are those who want it, and those who need it, if she isn't one of them then stop waiting on her, because you know "DeNial" is a long river in Egypt.

Thank god I'm sober today...

Jeremy

# posted by

Anonymous : 7:27 PM

Oy. I don't think I have ever had a sponsee whose neck I didn't want to wring on occassion.

# posted by

Mary Christine : 8:40 PM

I don't know yet, don't have one.

# posted by

lash505 : 9:49 PM

I agree with jeremy. Your sponsee need some consequences which include losing a sponsor. There may be a deserving person who is not getting your attention.

# posted by

dAAve : 10:26 PM

I know its hard, step back and pratice detaching with love and turn her over to God...
Tell her hey, dont call me until you go to a meeting, and then tell which ones you will be at... my friend Christy recently did that with her sponsee, a good friend of both of ours as well.. who is in the revolving door..

and LOL at MC

# posted by

Shannon : 12:24 AM

Sometimes acquiring a difficult sponsee may be your HP telling you that you need to work on an area of yourself. Hang in there, and pray on it!

# posted by

Jen R. : 1:25 AM

I hate it when spot it, got it rears its ugly head.

# posted by

Scott W : 7:30 AM

I thought it was a requirement of being a sponsee... I want to wring all their necks

# posted by

Mama Dukes : 12:57 PM

I have a lady that just went back out, she's been trying for about a whole year now (having had previous long-term sobriety).

It's frustrating, and mine is also very much like me.

# posted by

Anonymous : 10:37 PM

I agree with everyone who's saying get tough and give her consequences and follow through on them. If you don't, it's a form of enabling, which is not loving. Trudge, you know I've been "stuck" in the revolving door for quite some time. If I had a sponsor who got tough with me, it would most definitely get my attention (Don't misread this -- I'm on day 12 now, and still going strong... today!).

# posted by

Pam Jarnagin : 12:04 PM

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